I was at dinner with some friends the other night and my friend Jen tells a story of how during a night out with a friend she realized that it was supposed to be a date. Her friend started pulling out her chair, trying to hold her hand and such. At that point, she realized this isn't just two friends “hanging out”, this guy thinks this is a “date”. Of course after she says this we all start laughing. I asked her, “How did you not know it was a date?” She explained that they had gone out for dinner before as friends so she thought nothing of it when he asked her out for dinner again. She said she might have considered it a date when he asked her to wear something nice, but then thought, “Hey, who am I to think like that?” After a good chuckle, I said out loud, “What makes it a date?”
I have often joked that time spent with certain friends over dinner is date night. But what does that really mean? Is a date just when you purposely take time to spend with one person with the sole intention of knowing each other a little more? Does a date always have to have a sexual reference?
It still makes me laugh a bit when I think of Jen saying that she “didn't know” she was on a date. It also makes me think, how many times has somebody asked me out and I thought it was just as friends, but they had different intentions? What do you think? When do you feel like you are on a date? What set of circumstances would make you cross that line in your mind? Tell me, let me know. I would love to hear from you. Guys, girls, single or taken, I want to hear it all.